Love and Matchmaking Guide

posted by Ram on Aug 26

Talking dirty for the first time or talking dirty to your new partner is always going to be difficult and risky to you to do, as if how your partner is going to react. But eventually you have to talk dirty if you want to put your ideas into your sex play. It makes you and your partner comfortable to loose your scary feeling and expose your feelings. Here are some tips.

1. You have to find the different aspect of your personality. It’s not going to be something like that we hear or watch in movie. Be yourself, find something to inspire of yourself in the role. Good dirty is all about how you do it and what you have imagined your self being. Make your self authentic.
2. Your dirty talk voice may be low rhythmic grunts, precise whispers, or high pitched squeals or, all you need to find which is going to be your dirty talk voice. Your voice shouldn’t be specific there must be always element of surprise so that your partner be earful to you. Find your dirty voice.
3. If you are keen to have dirty sex you don’t want to use the same words again and again. Do some online search; read sex books or watch porn movies. Don’t use clinical word like “penis”. You certainly don’t want to sound out of your mouth. You can expand your dirty talk vocabulary.
4. Some of the people who are great to have dirty talk had practice a lot when they were own their own. Fantasizing of having sex with partner and talking dirty with him/her will certainly help you to be comfortable in this. Eventually you have to do it loud. So, Practice dirty talk when you’re alone.
5. You should keep in your mind if you are about to have dirty talk with your partner you may turn down or take as ridiculous or rejected by your partner. You have to make the ground rules like not laughing at dirty talk or taking lightly. It’s your art how you put your feelings on dirty talk but in an understandable or acceptable way. Always establish ground rules with your partner.
6. Elaborate verbal gymnastics shouldn’t be done in a rush. Start slowly but steadily. Sometimes, describing the things during making love with your might turned out to be really helpful to initiate the dirty talk. You can describe how does it feels by saying like”you really feel in/inside my….”, or”I like the way you….to me” something like that. Hence, start slow the first time.
7. Voice experiment the impact made by different experiments like changing speed, pitching of your voice low or high are countable. Even whispering, trying everything in the middle, playing with the tenor of your voice can be found interesting to do.
8. Well, it’s not going to help you if you do it from your side only but not by whom you are trying on. Ask him/her to do so. Who knows you may learn few things from your partner. It’s different perspective you get if you are on giving and receiving side of your dirty talk. So, better to make two way dirty conversations.