posted by Ram on Aug 1
Marriage is the normal for the older people, whereas the older women prefer to be widowed than married. 22% of older men and 44% of older women lived alone, & the proportion is increasing with age, in 2007. Marriage at old age is a taboo in most of the country societies. It is unlikely that two old people sharing their feelings or worlds after they have lost their loves are scare of society thoughts. There are many old people who are left alone after the unhappy marriages at the last moments of their lives.
People who are old have already been through all the turns, ups and downs and of the road called life. They have faced all the relations and experienced how to act on them and continue which kind of relationships. So, it isn’t a crush or attraction that old people are going to have when they meet or talk at the coffee shops with someone of their own age.
It’s the young people who take it as shame to them to introducing a mate their parents they are seeing someone. So, old people are obliged to think who will want to relate with our families if their grandfather still enjoys the honeymoon. You can imagine how hard this is for those old women in those parts of world where still women are under shadow. So who is guilty at this situation? It’s our society and community which has to be changed. You can never imagine the great loneliness and dilemmas they are going to endure in their lives. They aren’t going to get married for sensual pleasure at their old ages rather it is the solace that they create after their company which is beyond our imagination.
Joseph and Lakshmiammal got married at after 60s who shared the same childhood. Lakshmiammal who was in a torture by her drunkard husband for thirty years .but finally she got the relief when he died and she returned to her home where she met her childhood friend Joseph who was spending his retirement life after his motherless children weren’t showing responsibility on him. But when they met and shared their platonic lives; his children came home to prevent them to share their lives saying that they are the shame to their families. Then, Lakshmiammal complained the police about the physical tortures by his children and finally they lived their happy life forever. So this is high time for the society and even old people to start seeing or dating someone of your age.
Dating at old age mayn’t is as easy as it was. You aren’t athletic or charming you were used to be. But now you are old and wise. You have been through all the romantic moments to nasty divorces, so you already know how to deal with it. It’s like riding a bicycle that you already know but are afraid of. Only you need to get on bicycle, you will automatically star to ride it.
For dating use text messages, emails or letters .you may think that what’s wrong with phone? In telephone you have to answer right back and mayn’t get the chance to say what you really want to say whereas letters or text messages, emails provide you the time to know each other.
It’s very hard to fall in new relations with two people with different emotional lives, but it becomes more complicated when children are involved in it. It’s easier to say that I can manage if you have children but it’s difficult to do. You need to give some space and be equally sensitive to their decisions about their children.
So it is going to be complicated but it can be just rewarding and enjoyable as if you were eighteen. You just need to leave your past behind you and think of future where you can share your intimacy, solace with for rest of your life.
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